Wow. Those tips are invaluable for today’s youth. It’s amazing what you’re doing. What would you say is the biggest careless mistake you see kids doing on social media these days?
Yeah, that’s a really good question. I’d say there’s a lot that tweens and teens, anywhere between the age of eight to 18 these days, they really don’t know a time where social media hasn’t existed in their life. So, if we try and jump into the seat with them and say, “Let’s walk a mile in their shoes,” a smartphone is something they’ve grown up with in a way.
Vocalizing their daily activities and their frustrations is something that every teen and tween feels totally comfortable doing. So I’d say one of the biggest careless mistakes is… Let me speak to families and parents for just a moment.
Families and parents, you really need to consider talking with your teens and tweens about what is good and what is bad to post on social media. It’s very, very important that they have a clear understanding of what’s going to work and not. So talk to them about being light, bright and polite, how to be kind, how to be smart and especially how to be proud of everything they post.
Talk to them as well about what the consequences will be, “Consequences look a little something like this.” A big careless mistake is when you don’t think about the consequences, your child, your teen or tween can’t get into that perfect school, that college. Or perhaps they can’t get into the associated student body as president or they’re not on the varsity football team. Anything can happen.
Or especially, once they become a young professional they can’t get that dream internship, which is really big on a start to their career. So that’s one of the bigger careless mistakes. I encourage a lot of parents to start having that conversation with them and teach them, “This is a dramatic post and this is a good post.” Let kids post, but teach them how to post in a positive way that’s light, bright and polite.
Yeah. That’s a huge tip for these kids. Because in this job market, why would you want to blow everything away by just venting your frustrations? That makes so much sense.
So, Josh, what is one tip for any of us who want to make our online profiles more private or safe?
Yeah, good question. Very good question. I’m going to answer that with two parts, Alexis. Number one, I think it’s really important for people to realize that nothing is private and safe. So live a life that’s light, bright and polite. You’re going to be better off in the long run.
I publicize a lot of my stuff because I realize that I have to live this life. So I make everything light, bright and polite. I have a lot to say, and have a lot of fun with it. So, it’s a good example. You guys can go and research and see some of the stuff I talk about. You can have a lot of fun and still be light, bright and polite and safe on social media.
So, first you realize that nothing is private. Be light, bright and polite in all that you do because eventually it will be publicized. Second, it’s important that you realize that every post you make eventually will be a billboard, and it will be found by people that you don’t want to see it – your teachers, your parents and if you own a company, your clients someday.
Everything is being archived. So even if you are about to graduate high school and go into college, that college can see everything that you post. So make sure it’s not too private. Make sure it’s not too dramatic.
If you look at anything on your Facebook profile – here’s one of the biggest key takeaways that we’ve had – make sure that you can use your Facebook profile as a resume to get into college and to get that internship. It really is important. They’re going to find it anyways. There are a hundred ways to get access to your Facebook page.
It will become public. I can’t reiterate enough. “But, Josh, I have it set to private.” Regardless, we still have a lot of ways, and admissions officers and people at schools are so good at this. So you need to make sure you’re proud of every photo on your Facebook page, your Instagram, every tweet, every snapshot, because a snapshot lives on past video. When you think it expires, it actually goes a lot further.
So make sure that you realize nothing is private, and once you realize that go back to everything you’ve posted and say, “What should I take down?” A key takeaway there is go to a loved one, family member or a good friend that will be honest with you.
Instead of privatizing your Facebook page and really trying to lock it down, ask a friend, “Hey, friend, will you please be brutally honest with me and tell me what five photos I should remove from my profile on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,” whatever it is. They will come back and they’ll give you those five photos and they’ll be brutally honest because they care about you, and you should seriously consider removing those.
I’ve actually had people do that with me. Even though I live a light, bright and polite life, I still have had some photos that some of my friends have said, “Hey, Josh, you’re a great guy and you’re awesome. But these photos could be misunderstood.” I went, “You know what? That’s a really good point,” and I took them down. So I think that’s the best way to make your profile photos private and safe.
Wow. This is fantastic stuff. I mean, it applies to adults as much as kids. So, Josh, tell me a little bit about what the future holds for your company media leaders.
Yeah. So we’ve got a book coming out next year that’s going to be “Light, Bright and Polite for Families and Kids”. It’s going to help a lot of families to be more safe and smart on social media. That’s going to be a tactical way to show kids how to be kind, smart, and polite in all that they do so they’re proud of everything they do.
Wow. Well, please let us know when it comes out. I’m sure I’m going to find out, and if you can come to Boston, we’d love to have you.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.
Well, thanks Josh. I appreciate you coming on, taking some time out of your day to share with us today. This wraps up our show today with Josh Ochs, Amazon.com bestselling author and public speaker. Please visit joshochs.com, J-O-S-H-O-C-H-S.com to learn more about Josh’s social media safety trainings and to find out when Josh may be coming to your city.
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